Love Is Blind

I don't usually want to dwell on celebrities' lives, but this is one case I couldn't ignore especially when it has to do with domestic violence. Obviously the subject hits very close to home with me and I wanted to discuss the current situation that's been going on between hip hop stars Rihanna and Chris Brown. Both are young talented musicians that have a lot going for them and I am terribly sadden by the unfolding story of abuse in their relationship. I'm not going to talk about the specifics of their case, but rather the unsettling negative attitude from fans of Chris Brown.

I've been all over the forums and blogs reading up on people's comments and I was horrified. Many fans of Brown actually wrote in statements like: "Rihanna got what she deserved, you would never do anything like that, or its okay everybody makes mistakes." Well ladies and gentlemen I hate to break it to you but abusers come in all shapes and sizes, wake up! It is not okay to intentionally hurt someone - physically, verbally, or pyschologically ... PERIOD! Yes, we do all make mistakes, but you have to learn from them as well - get the necessary professional help and make the conscience adjustments in your life so that you can be a better person. When it comes to domestic abuse/violence situations, 99% of the time the abuse happens more than once. It starts out "harmless" and gets increasing worse over time. Most victims of domestic abuse often don't even realize that they are in an abusive relationship, because they become blinded by what they want to see in their partner - and not actually seeing what abuse is taking place.

Are we socializing kids to be violent and in turn that violent behavior be accepted? When parents tell kids to not hit, bite, smack, and talk back and then they turn around and hit, smack, verbally assault, and abuse their own kids as punishment. Children do what they see, parents have to be the one to set the example. Are we still socializing girls to be nice and quiet, and not to "air out their dirty laundry" when a crime has been committed against them?

It's time we hold the abusers accountable for their deplorable actions and to not blame the victims for staying in the relationship.

Eve - "Love Is Blind" Video
(Strong language, disturbing images)